If you ever meet my mom, you’ll know exactly who I look like. It is 100% obvious that she influenced my “nature” with her genes. My dad was incredibly creative, impulsive, and fearless. I got a lot of those things from him. I know that they came through the “nature” avenue because I lost him very young and still developed a personality much like his.

What isn’t as evident is what I got via “nurture”. You see, my instinct is snap smart-alecky comments when I am hurt. My instinct is to get frustrated when things don’t go my way. My instinct is sometimes very un-loving.  This is where my mom has nurtured me to be a better person. Her beautiful spirit has made me stop and think before I speak and to remain calm in the face of frustrations. If I’ve ever made you think that I am kind… it is because of her.

When I look at the teachers in my school I can see this nature versus nurture puzzle at play as well. In the classroom, there are things that will come naturally to us. Things that we will do well without even knowing why. There will also be things that are challenging. Things that we have to nurture in our practice to continue to grow.

For me, creating lessons is natural. I think of writing as a hobby that helps me relax and unwind. What is not as natural for me? Let me count the things:

1. I am disorganized. While I can tell you where ANYTHING is in my room, you would never be able to find it because it is controlled chaos in there.
2. I fail at the small stuff. I jump right into my lesson and forget to take attendance, notice if people are violating dress code, etc.
3. I am terrible about those pre-post tests. I hate them and I just can’t force myself to act like it isn’t the dumbest thing I’ve ever had to do.
4. I hate when I have discipline problems. Since I started using a story and reader based curriculum, I have very few, but when they do happen, I feel awful. I analyze everything I’m doing to try to figure out what I did to cause them to misbehave. In most cases, the behavior has nothing to do with me but I assume responsibility anyway.
5. I lose things. All the things.
6. I can’t remember anything. Ever.
7. My room is not beautiful. I am a terrible decorator. It looks a little like a swap meet or a flea market.

What I believe is that if I nurture these weak spots, I can learn to do them better. This year, I’ve started organizing my FVR library. I think if I can get this one area organized now, next year I can tackle my desk. I am writing myself notes and using Siri to remember things, and it is helping! I think even if you’re a teacher struggling right now with a negative attitude about being in the classroom or with a department’s negative attitudes, nurturing some positive thoughts can help you end the semester on a happier note!

We’re going to be giving thanks for a lot of things this holiday weekend and I hope that when we go back to school on Monday, we’ll be able to find things to be thankful for there. When we find the hard things, I hope we can nurture the right attitudes to keep ourselves (and our students) on the path to fluency!